Black History Month 20 for 20: Martin & Gina - Opposites Attract
Monday January 30th I was shooting the shit on Twitter as usual, and turned my attention to the love I have for Master P. My friend Courtney with a K inspired me to start this series (as you can see below). For every weekday in February, I will profile Black persons in celebration of Black History Month. #BHM20for20 Why only 20? Y’all too busy sinning on the weekend to read (I’m joking but not really). Thank you Kourtnee.
“Gina, you schemed, you plotted, and finally, clank clank, you trapped me! Yes Gina, I will marry you; I mean damn, are you happy now?” – Martin Payne
I honestly don’t know how Gina could possibly turn down such a romantic proposal but that’s neither here or there. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know Martin is my favorite show of all-time (no offense to people who live under rocks). Please understand that Martin is a fictional show, and as entertaining as it is, there are plenty of life lessons we should apply as well. For example, “Before I sell out, I gets the hell out!” Or, “The man who sleeps on the floor, can’t fall out of bed.” However, no life lesson was better than learning about women in relationship form by watching the dynamic that is Martin & Gina’s relationship.
Before I delve into the subject at hand, I want to illuminate (I be playing Scrabble & shit) on something we can all relate to. You ever choose the wrong friend? Whether it be right after approaching someone, and realizing their friend is more attractive, or after you get into a relationship, only to find out they were hiding their dope friend from you because they knew it would be a wrap (or a “dub” as the kids say). Sometimes the lame-duck is a hater, and y’all history not even that deep but they don’t want to see you happy because you couldn’t make them happy, and you lose out on their friend that way; oh, it happens. And sometimes, your name is Martin & you end up with Gina but should’ve been with Pam. Lesson 1? Go get your Pam, and don’t be with Gina just cuz; whether it’s their friend or not, let the incumbent know that they’ll be your best friend as a lover longer than who you slipped up and spoke to first.
Martin being stuck with Gina made for some uncomfortable situations in their relationship but we learn life as a community. Gina was so busy trying to change Martin that she forgot to appreciate who he was. Who gives someone a sculpture of an ass as a present? The same type of person who insults someone’s mother and says hurtful shit as they’re arguing for the sake of saying hurtful shit, and as they say, “Hurt people hurt people.” Not only did she buy an ass for Martin but also this woman went on two dates, 2! First she went on a date with Reverend Leon Lonnie Love; the full blown fucking creep he is, and then she went out on the man who would later run King’s Tower, Mr. Braxton P. Hartnabrig. Meanwhile, Martin had to be dragged off his couch by Tommy (R.I.P.) & Cole, just to go to a club and meet Lisa Turtle, who was only in town because there were no decent Black guys at Bayside. The entire time Martin was hanging out with Lisa Turtle, all he did was talk about Gina, and where was she? Sharing coffee with Braxton, coffee dates are a gateway to sex, not $200 dates, learn life. Gina wanted Martin to do all types of bourgeois shit but was ready to let Braxton GTD off a 2 for 1 Starbucks. Lesson 2? If she loves you, she won’t try to change anything but positions during sex with you.
Understand that Martin wasn’t without faults but he learned life on the fly; while Gina barely ever adjusted. For example, Martin’s extravagant proposal was an adjustment from the simple & romantic original that I quoted to begin this dissertation. Martin understood Gina wanted more, and he delivered but did he get a thank you note? Of course not! Gina was making more money than Martin, and I see no issue with that but Martin’s ego, and pride took a hit. Now, if Martin was so broke, why everybody was always hanging at his apartment instead of leaving him alone so he had no other choice but to work, and earn? See, was an enabler. When WZUP (why no one have a podcast named after this is beyond me) folded, and Martin was out of a job, Gina kept trying to make Martin take her money, when he was trying to get his hustle on and take odd-jobs. Then she went behind his back, and got him an interview at TV-55; what type of person does that? I know y’all thinking, “shit, that’s actually dope” but the position Martin got wasn’t shit, and it was him, and him alone who got himself in front of the camera, when he became The Love Doctor. If Gina was making so much bank, why did she move into martin’s apartment after having a plush spot to herself but then they still had to save money? What was she doing with the money she saved from not having to split rent? (Tony, what’s good?) Lesson 3? Don’t let love make you content, become who you should on your own!
You’re an idiot if you take anything I just wrote to heart, and deserve to be miserable all day today. Gina made Martin better, and it showed. Martin made Gina happy, and it showed. Friends, partners, lovers, and one of the more iconic couples to depict Black love on primetime television. “Like Martin without Gina…” They just wouldn’t have functioned well without each other, and I know it’s a show, and not “real” but the feeling and lessons of growth we all took from their relationship are very real. Thank you Martin & Gina for 4 wonderful seasons of love; yes, I said 4, and I don’t care what you people say.
Next up, I show love to a Black man who was/is a pioneer in the LGBTQ community.