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25toLYFE Anonymous Advice: Waiting to Exhale

25toLYFE Anonymous Advice: Waiting to Exhale

Anonymous Lyfer asked:

How do you know if your guy is, “Mr. Right”? When is too soon to bring up the, “What is our future looking like?” question?

Every time I put a time frame or timeline on the things I generally wanted to flow organically, it seemed to LOSE SOME OF IT’S AUTHENTICITY. I seemed to be more calculated in the actions I naturally would or wouldn’t do so that I would get my desired outcome. It was a crazy subconscious thing...

STORY TIME...I gifted someone I was talking to a massage for their birthday laced with all these thoughtful reasons when I really was just trying to stay “relevant.” It felt like that was what I had to do to kind of “compete” with whatever else they had going on.

Manipulating the fuck out of something that should have been done because I genuinely wanted to make them smile/relax, regardless if it meant I was around longer or if the gift gesture was returned. I was enough but I somehow ended up doing THEE MOST. I felt like we had been talking a certain amount of time for certain things to be happening.

So now that you’re going to assess the natural flow of this relationship you should have a better idea of how YOU feel about him.I want you to put a little less emphasis on him and figure out if YOU could see yourself with him long term?

Are you ready to drop the rest of the starting lineup on the roster and put more time and energy into him? (I know you got one Guh!)

Are you ready to meet the family? Are you ready to settle down and be Mrs. Right?

Often times we crave what we are not yet ready for...

If you can answer some of these questions for your own personal desires then no time is too soon! You should feel comfortable in both being still and giving it more time or boldly moving forward with your question about your future together. Don’t miss out but don’t be impulsive either. Find your balance; I hope the stars absolutely align for the two of you! 

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