Stop Wasting Good Energy on Bad Things
Listen, life is challenging. As someone who is currently in remission of stage 4 cancer I know this first hand. With that said I have to consciously remind myself why that makes it even more imperative I don’t let the best of me go to the worst people or worst situations. It’s so cliché to tell someone “stay positive” but a lot of times there is an immense amount of proof in those same clichés.
If it’s work? Bust your ass at that shitty job until you get that promotion or look for one while still working there. People honestly are more likely to reach out to extend olive branches when they know you are trying, you won’t have to ask for anything. If it’s a relationship, stop bringing the past into new things especially when it’s not fair to the person you are now dealing with. That’s already putting a kibosh on something that could end of promising. Quite frankly you have to be willing to get hurt and be open to get what you want in terms of love anyways, isn’t that the goal?
Distance yourself from complainers. We all complain, but some folks incessantly talk about how bad things are and I’m wondering if they live in the parallel dystopian future from the Independence day sequel that no one went to see because Will Smith wasn’t even in the damn film. Them aliens didn’t even complain anyway, they came back to get us outta here.
Focus on the silver linings. Again I’m not saying this is easy. Tragedy, poverty, pain, hurt, etc. Are all real emotions? And anyone man or woman that doesn’t have them need to be put on an island somewhere together so they can pretend to be cyborgs in silence. “Ab you are always looking for the best in bad situations” many people tell me. Honestly what other option is there? I almost died, and I at one point almost gave up even before that when I lost my mom to the same disease that now plagues me. Before I got sick I was climbing the career ladder like Lara Croft can climb a wall in Tomb Raider. Then BAM, I lost my car, apartment and job and was damn near homeless. Picked myself up, then cancer tried to get me out of there. This is all relative don’t diminish your struggle or compare it to someone else’s because honestly the smallest thing to me can be the iceberg that hits your ship and sinks it. I really want everyone to win! I see tweets and meme’s that say this all the time, but I truly mean this.
Considering where we are at as a nation we need to be more optimistic than ever. I love being a young black man. Nothing will stop me from feeling that way. Not sickness, poverty or some orange peel posing as a politician.
I don’t know what made me right this, but if I can encourage one person with this rambling of words then I’ll be ok with that.