OPUS Mag

Far from timid • Caveat Lector

Who Asked You?!

Who Asked You?!

Little known fact: It's okay to mind your business and move around. Everything doesn’t require a comment from you. I’m sure you knew that already but just in case you didn’t, I’m here to remind you. For example, when you tell someone that they’re skinny (or fat), you’re pretty much telling them some shit that they already know and hear often. Thanks for being so observant. A+ for you. “Hey, your hairline is pushed back!” Thanks for noticing, bitch.

I use profanity not because my vocabulary is limited but because I like curse words. Pick your fucking poison. Don’t tell me it’s not ladylike to curse or ask if I kiss my mother with that mouth. You had kids out of wedlock and can’t keep a job but do I judge?

For natural girls, it’s annoying when we change our hair and people say “Oh wow, you did your hair!” No, I changed my hair. It grows out of my head the way you normally see it. When a man cuts his hair, you don’t tell him that he did his hair? He changed it. So as a woman, me changing it shouldn't be referred to as “getting it done”. If I choose to wear an afro for the next 30 years, that’s my business.

When you travel often, people always have an opinion about how you get to do it. There’s always an excuse for being able to do it. Maybe I choose what I want to spend money on more carefully. I’m not opposed to having trips paid for but stop acting like it’s impossible to pay for some shit unless you’re going to the moon.

I’d like to think that social media is partially to blame for this lack of restraint or respect. Why? Because people are so damn comfortable saying shit and offering their opinion about any and everything that doesn’t concern them. People will miss the whole damn point of something and zone in on something that has nothing to do with the price of tea in China. Before you focus on the “supporting facts” ask yourself what the main message of it was. Is your mental capacity that diminished that you can’t get yourself to (try to) see the bigger picture?

You don’t like my wallpaper? Cool. My socks don’t match? Great. My baby father left when I told him I was pregnant? AND?! Okay, I pushed it with the last one but gatdamn! People are judgey as fuck for no reason. Nobody said anything when you got evicted or arrested for fraud. People have their flaws and it’s not necessary to point every damn one out every damn time.

I’m not sure why people feel like their opinion validates a situation or circumstance with a total stranger. Because you have an opinion, I think I’ll change everything about me. Man, if you don’t get the fuck from me.

Stating the obvious is kind of redundant, unless asked. When it all balls down, we really don’t care either way. But we would like to thank you for wasting your time. If people put half as much energy into their own affairs, I'm sure they may get something important done. It doesn't seem as if it will happen today or anytime soon, but whatever.

Sometimes, creatives hold back because of this same backlash and opinion. When you look closer, you’re really selling yourself short because nobody else has the balls to say what you want to say. Why would you even care so much to adjust the way you move to accommodate their opinions? You fell in line with the rest of them.

Be a rebel. Not for the title but for yourself.

Y’all get on my nerves. Nobody made you the emperor of people’s affairs. The moral of the story is, shut the fuck and mind your business.

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