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Get Back on that Horse by @ViewtifulJ21

Get Back on that Horse by @ViewtifulJ21

We all have lived this story at some point in our lives. The unavoidable and calamitous end of a relationship, which seems like every natural disaster known to man, occurs in your heart and mind. There will be attempts to unfollow every facet of social media, deleting and reading of numbers - honestly, this is a normalcy. The thing that fascinates me is how we close ourselves off into our on caves. Let me preface this with me understanding where this is coming from. There were some breakups that I went through where I fell into a twilight zone of loathing. Load up THAT playlist. There's also the dreaded "all men/women" are evil inference. Once we have a bad experience with something, we tend to vilify and generalize something in that image. It’s dangerous ground, but also normal. It can also be normal to realize once you jump out of that cocoon that there are billions of people in the earth - all with their own experiences and nuances that may mold to you better.

Personally, I took a while off from dating and now I'm thrusted back into a new world of how things get done. I'm like the old time traveler in a new world of flying cars and teleportation devices. Everything is kind of foreign to me, but I'm far from the older man shaking his fist at the sky with the rotary phone.  Apps where you swipe left or right depends on your location - there's a fast food drive-thru feel to dating now, whether better or worse. To an older person, this may be a daunting change, but "getting back on the horse" needs you to be an active participant. Notice that I say "active". Everyone is so guarded. We treat dating more like a chess match than a time to get to know each other. One person can't give more than the other because it leaves them vulnerable. In order to achieve some sort of happiness, there has to be some sort of powerlessness. Yes, it's a little scary to hear that, but that's why you have to secure your own happiness first - a lesson that I carry with me. 

You hear the phrase, get out there and “get back on that horse". It's easier said than done, especially with the new jaded film that you are seeing everybody in especially after a breaking. We are in a time that we are connected to everything. Social media has made it that you are always around people in some semblance - albeit artificially. Being alone is a good thing in a world where there is constant chatter and a need to show everybody that they are missing out on something. Quality time to find out how to better your flaws and work on a better version of you is never time wasted. The only thing that you can waste is love. Love is not something you are supposed to keep to yourself - it's meant to be permeated throughout the world. Hearts get broken, but hearts heal as well. Let your hair down and have some fun with someone. I don't know where we became wound so tight that we became walking and loveless, but let curiosity and intrigue rule the day again. 

T.G.I.F. (Thank Griddy It's Friday) Vol. 8 by BK Nets Superfan @griddy

T.G.I.F. (Thank Griddy It's Friday) Vol. 8 by BK Nets Superfan @griddy

To You, I Vow... by @Love_Chan

To You, I Vow... by @Love_Chan