“How you hating from outside the club? You can’t even get in!” -Christopher Brown
That famous line seems to follow me around a lot. I have no objections about it either. More times than not, you need to be able to deny certain energies the access to your life and space. Life is too short to be dealing with so much unnecessary bullshit. I never understood people who stick around you for the sole purpose of “knowing” what you have going on. They want to keep tabs on you just to report back to people who probably never even asked about you. These are the same people who act as if they’re in your corner but are never around when you need them. I need somebody to logically explain the perks of perpetrating. What do you stand to gain? What is the current incentive? Like, why? So many questions, with so little answers…
Believe me when I say that I know that this is nothing new or recently discovered. It doesn’t mean I can’t still try to get to the bottom of it. At what point do people stop riding the fence? Yes, you can deal with several parties who don’t really get along but don’t fake it. “If you switch sides, you better stay there.” Uncle Rozay told me that. A lot of y’all move really funny style. Your foundation is real shaky, fam. You talk too much. Why not save yourself the fake anger of being fake upset and fake Big mad when you’ve been found out and cut off? Don’t be butt hurt when your ass gets kicked to the curb. You, my former friend, have played yourself.
One thing about it, life goes on. You live and learn. You become a better person when you make it through the bullshit. There’s no reason for you to feel bad or guilty for protecting your energy. Every once in awhile, you must clean up the shop and change the locks. You have to make up a new secret handshake. You have to delete people. Take a different route home. See what your game has been missing. We become so preoccupied and content with what is familiar instead of what genuinely makes us feel good. Fuck all of that! Limit people’s access. Make yourself a little less accessible. Deny that access. Let them figure out where they went wrong without losing sleep or time for yourself and things that matter.
I say that to say this: Be better to, and for yourself.