Dame Dash Was Right, BUT...
“You just a worker, and your boss is my man.” – Jadakiss
The message conveyed by Dame Dash wasn’t the issue; the messenger was all fucked up. I’m not from Harlem but I know not to speak on another man’s affairs, business or pockets; that’s not what this is about. You don’t like how aggressive the message was delivered? I can completely understand that but it didn’t bother me in the least bit because I can think further than what’s said to me. The problem was how one-sided the message given was and that’s fucking dangerous.
Listen everybody doesn’t want or need to run his or her own company because everybody doesn’t have the capacity for it. That doesn’t make people who do greater than; just different.
Dame Dash’s takes on ownership, asking for handouts, permission and being able to grandfather the future of our families in were all valid points. The dangerous side of what Dame’s stance is the stubbornness that made/makes him effective as an entrepreneur. Like, I can fully understand what other people do for a living and respect the reasoning behind it but it doesn’t mean I relate to it. Whereas, Dame Dash just completely dismisses the working class and as an entrepreneur, the people who help elevate you to “boss” status and that you put on or employ are never ever to be taken for granted; no matter how much you can’t relate to them.
Working for yourself means alienating yourself from any and everything that doesn’t further your agenda because it’s a waste of time. The amount of relationships I’ve personally damaged and/or destroyed because of my endeavors are in the dozens. The “others” don’t get the passion and drive behind what you do because they measure you by results and if ever or whenever you have to take time out to explain to them your process and end goal, they still won’t get it and that causes you to loathe and resent them because they just made you exert energy that would have better used to do 4 or 10 other things. You and them are not the same.
Self-employment is a different breed of discipline, dedication and hard work that is more times than not, unhealthy as shit. Being an entrepreneur is a miserable fucking existence. There are days, nights, and weeks that you will eat nothing but water and feel like you’re in hell, prison or both. There are days, weeks, months and whole ass years that you are dead broke and nobody will give a fuck about your struggles. You are your end all be all, no matter who helped you, they aren’t you and your ability, wherewithal and fucking guts are what carry you thru life, not bullshit validation. No matter who’s around or who’s at fault, the accountability falls on you. There’s no throwing anyone under the bus (you’re a sucker ass sucker if you do this anyway) and you must build a shit ton of patience, while always being impartial.
In this year of 2016, in which anyone with Wi-Fi and a smartphone can build a “brand”, how is what Dame Dash said wrong? In an era where getting surgery and promoting tea that makes you shit yourself can get you a gig for 5k a night hosting a party, how was Dame Dash wrong? He wasn’t wrong, he was just short-sided and again, that’s dangerous because the full story is exhausting and not as glamorous as giving yourself a title. The only use these titles have are for giving people who haven’t earned anything a sense of entitlement & that’s frustrating to people who bust their ass but we keep our head down and keep it pushing.
Nobody cares about how hard you work, they only care about results but you care and you should. So to those who tell you they don’t? Fuck them; they don’t understand your drive because they don’t have it in themselves. Most people who pretend to be independent are people who just “hustle” and while I appreciate the lingo because this is the jargon of my culture; it’s complete bullshit. A lot of folks will sell you an appearance in order to get over on you in hopes of furthering their agenda so that they can go do business with “them”. Fuck those types of people, I done hustled for real and you can’t sell me bullshit, I know the prices. That’s a dangerous thing within our culture and community, we tend to hustle each other and go do business elsewhere, instead of doing GOOD business with each other and helping each other hustle “them”. That’s all because we’re stuck in this barrel of trying to look better than one another. Why is it an accomplishment to be on such and such station or in such and such magazine but not our own? Why do we give “them” the prestige?
We all have jokes for Master P’s sneakers, clothing line, movies and such but they’re his. Master P was breaking molds of ownership, not only within our culture but also in America, period. Master P is a fucking pioneer and I have nothing but respect for him because he paved the way for your punk asses to have SoundCloud Enterprises for your fuck ass independent artist MC Tweet Tweet. Let’s stop dismissing our own and actually support black businesses and not just talk about it. These black business owners don’t need to be your favorite people, nor do they even need to be your friend. The other side don’t accept us or love us but we will run to support them because we’re obsessed with acceptance. Who says their label/brand is fly? All so you can think you’re doing and looking better than the rest of the barrel?
Entrepreneurs are no martyrs, we just know what we’re willing to put in to get to where we want to go and who we want to become. If you’ve ever had any semblance of a real conversation with me, you know the question I ask is this, “If you could wake up tomorrow and be/do whatever you want to do, what would it be?” after you answer, I follow up with, “Why aren’t you doing that then?” after that answer, I follow up with this, “With what you make at your job now, would you quit if your dream job or career paid you the same exact thing?” If you have to hesitate to answer yes to that question, leave being self-employed alone because your passion would have made you jump out the window for it.
All in all, Dame Dash was right but self-awareness is a hell of a gift. Listen to yourself, trust yourself and understand that you’ll be driven to depression way more times than you’ll be happy. Paying the cost to be the “boss” has nothing to do with money; it’s the price of your soul, social life and mental health. If you ever tell yourself that you have to “sacrifice” in order to achieve your entrepreneur goals, than you’re fucking lying and should be a good person and get a job. The only sacrifice in this life is doing anything that keeps you away from your ultimate goal.