“So pardon my disposition; why should I listen to a system that never listened to me?” – Jay-Z
What is this conversation you speak of? Why do we have to try to bridge the gap with people who’ve proven time, and time again, with their actions that they want no parts of us? All that energy & angst Black dudes give to everyone, “I wish a nigga would” suddenly disappears when an oppressor appears. It turns into one big fucking kumbaya my lord, and needing to “heal together.” Here’s the thing, these motherfuckers who want to have “the conversation” with their oppressor are impressed, intimidated, and want to learn from them because they would like to become an oppressor themselves. These fucking liars are often dumb, loud, and are simply politicians; like I don’t know, the Tang colored fuckhead they just elected. They’re the members of Think About It Nation, they say the simplest shit or the dumbest shit, and pretend it’s so deep and beyond our grasp, that they’re only retort is, “think about it.” They crowd source, and hustle popularity from us with something mildly interesting (see: Kanye & his music) just to go do business with them under the guise of it being man vs. machine but the truth is they’re looking to become part of the machine. These people who want to have “the conversation” are nothing but fucking liars, and I get where we come from that we need to respect the hustle but what they forget to tell you is that respect works both ways, and blatantly lying to our faces time & time again while TRYING to hustle us makes us, well, specifically me, say fuck you & “the conversation” you rode in on.
I can’t go do market without some white lady asking me, “What team do you play for?” Can we have that conversation? Because I’m Black, tall, and tatted up, there’s no way I’m not a basketball player right? I don’t want to have a conversation with people who judge a book by its cover, all while screaming, “you don’t know shit about me!” Which one is it? Do you care to converse about your hypocrisy? I didn’t think so. I’ve had other Black men tell me that I look like a criminal because of tattoos on my hands & neck; again these fuckheads want to become the oppressor that they’re so adamant of cursing out in private. I’ve heard people say, “Fuck the police” in conversation but when the police are around it’s “yes sir!” Again, which one is it? Trust me, I understand preserving our safety because these police are pieces of shit that will murder us, and think nothing of it; I GET IT. And maybe this is my flaw but I either stand all the way or not at all. Screaming fuck the police when the police aren’t around to hear you doesn’t mean much, it’s a rallying cry to incite other people who might actually be all the way about that life while you’re comfortable simply saying, and not doing. I’ve tried to have 1 somewhat cordial conversation with the police in my life, and he a “black” officer, meaning he’s still a cop, so fuck him, and during a protest in NYC after a grand jury decided not to indict Eric Garner’s murderer(s), I asked him, “How as a Black man are you comfortable being at work in that uniform today?” His answer was, “I have bills to pay” and in response I said fuck you, and walked away. That was the last time I gave even the slightest of a fuck about having “the conversation” with anyone I recognize as my oppressor.
A lot of people will think that’s a respectable answer because it’s true; we have bills to pay but at what cost? We live in a society where prostitution is at an all-time high, and I’m talking about soul prostitution. There’s a sever lack of integrity, and people mask it by saying something money related because their moral compass is all fucked up. I’ll never be anyone’s judge or jury but my own, however, when I see people in position to take a stance but don’t because of money, I HAVE to say something because there are kids watching them be fucking immoral sluts for money, and since it’s popular, kids will figure to do the same thing; not on my fucking watch. Understand this, any “conversation” you’re reading right now, I’ve had with myself multiple times.
The conversation I do want to have is with Black men who despise being oppressed by white people but turn around and oppress Black women. The same way white people (who are on permanent timeout with me; see: election 2016) are dismissive of Black men, they are of Black women but also Black women have to deal with oppression of the sexism nature, and a lot of Black men are responsible, well, irresponsible for that. For Charlamagne to be so obtuse with his blanket statements, and “appear” void of empathy for Black women is a huge issue, not only because his platform lends him to be heard by kids who think this is ok but the fact he came up under a Black woman in Wendy Williams. During my “industry” days, I would always personally thank anyone for boosting the site, and after a Dons & Divas party that Wendy, Meikhi Phifer, and LisaRaye McCoy hosted, I went up to WBLS and brought Wendy flowers for shouting the site out on her wildly popular show. Long story short, Charlamagne was getting her coffee, which I presume is the reason he enjoys stirring the pot now so much. Black men use Black women to further their agenda all the time, and to leave Black women to clean up the mess in their lives that they created, and it’s fuck shit. I understand the 48 Powers of Law just as much as anyone, so much so that I can quote them without using Google. Law 6: Court Attention At All Costs; including trolling, and for grown ass men to think this is ok because it’s “working” is dumb shit, and at the top of the “think about it” pile.
It’s our job as Black men to create a space of inclusion for Black women where our privilege exists. Yes, Black men, we have a space of privilege, and it’s considered “the boys club.” And in this space of privilege it’s on us to show them how to respect ours, not only because Black women include everyone, and everything into their very limited space but because it’s the right fucking thing to do. Being halfway decent is the easiest thing in the world to do because all you have to do is stay the fuck out of the way but even that is too much for some men to do. And it certainly still isn’t enough, we have to be as proactive, and vigilant in included Black women into our space because we are absolutely nothing without Black women, and for everything we have done, do, and don’t do for them, they STILL include, defend, protect, and love us; Black men, we don’t even do that in front of company, time for us to step up, Alain especially.
Another conversation we need to have is about pandering; don’t. If you’re remotely good at what you do, go be good at what you do. No need to spend every waking second of your life placating people, and holding their hands, or being “seen” by them for them to respect your work. If your work is the shit, they’ll fuck with it, the end. Put all that energy into being good at what you do 1st and foremost, then share, and repeat. Maybe, just maybe your work isn’t as good as you conjured it up in your mind to be, and that’s why you have to kiss ass for laughs, and cash; sounds terrifying but I’m sure that’s not “the conversation” anyone wants to have yet.
Photographers, why are these women half bucket naked in the woods? Don’t you know bears are on the prowl? Please make me understand why you have these women covered in all my favorite condiments, what the fuck am I supposed to put on my supper? But I know, that’s not “the conversation” you’re ready to have yet.
Can we have “the conversation” about the hurricane in Haiti, and how everyone that asks me for favors day in, and day out were nowhere to be found when it happened but were always quick to holla with an immigrant joke about me being Haitian? As much of a moron as I think Kanye is, cue Real Friends, but I won’t rant about it, because that’s not “the conversation” they’re going to get from me, now or ever.
I don’t like talking; I love doing. Let’s talk about the talk, and have “the conversation” with people who don’t have talent but we’ll go behind the scenes with them because they have “the conversation” with talented people. NO THANK YOU! If everyone is always talking, who the fuck is doing the doing? The answer is me, and people of my elk (you love elk); always has been, always will be. While understanding frustration, and blowing off steam in the form of conversation; I can’t get jiggy with it. I don’t confuse frustration with complaining, by all means do not let me, or anyone tell you hot to feel, think, or be ever; today or EVER but where is the move forward? In “the conversation” or in taking action? Talking only moves individuals forward, and while representation is super important; collective freedom, and ownership means more to me. I peep the short, long, and middle game; and I’m not here to play with anybody; I’m here to put the power back into the hands of the powerful. You don’t have to hear me but my action will make you listen.
As always, please remember, I’m not a psychiatrist, psychologist or any of that shit, so when the shit hits the fan? It’s your own fucking fault. Now go DO something or stop talking, and get the fuck out my way.